Not everything may be as it seems. That said, I wish Kimberly and yourself the best. Welcome to the life a single bachelor...again. I've been there, done that and everything has remained amicable. She will always be the mother of my children. The one constant in my life has been my two children and my love for model railroading.
Err, that makes 3 constants Rick .... Jerry, sorry to hear about what you're going through, though it's good to hear that you're staying amicable, and it sounds like there's respect there too. All the best for your future Mate! Rhino, in South Oz
Jerry, Sorry to hear of the break-in-two, but a least this one doesn't require a urinalysis! t I'll be praying for you and Kimberly, and that things roll smoothly.
Thanks Rick! Yes, single again. Exciting and depressing all at the same time. Kinda like going to a train show and realizing you cant afford the good stuff.....LOL
Hopefully seeing some SF freight rolling across Muir Trestle will help some. Santa Fe ALL the Way Jerry!
Yes, that would help alot! Just finished the who gets what process today and her and 'her' things are out of here. This weekend will be spent writing down what I need and going to walmart and spending train money on things like new silverware, towels, pans....etc....LOL But, life is grand and its only for a moment.
"Silverware"? I believe in Merrie Olde England the Lord of the Manor merely grabbed a leg of mutton, put a portion in his mouth and used his dagger to slice off what was outside, being careful to not to cut his fist holding the bone.... Other than that, I wish you the best on this first day of the rest of your life.
Let's see one son, raise one finger, one daughter raise a second finger, model railroading, raise a third finger. Yep, that would be correct. Three fingers. Sorry, I was counting my broken toes. LOL Ahh...err...how do I say that Kids can be on again off again? That my love for model railroading has remained...well sort of... (unless I'm dissed off at everything as I am now) a constant in my life? And that I'm sick and tired of the whole mess? I probably ought to keep all this under wraps...don't you think. :uhoh: Heeheehee
BBQ? Don't I wish I lived closer. Relax, for the first time in years and have yourself a good time. You are free to run around the house yelling "Home Alone".
Jerry - sorry to hear of your domestic changes, but sounds like it is going relatively smoothly. Hope all works out well.
Jerry Sorry to hear this situation, but most likely it is for the best. Hope it stays amicable for you. You say her "things" are gone. Did you slip the owls into her "things"? Carl
Rick, first I wish you only but the best. I have been there myself. In just a few days it will have been four years since my divorce and the wounds are still fresh. To many in the model railroad community, the divorce was something of a shock. Tina went with me to all the shows, was a member of the N scale club, had her own trains, modules and together we built a high rail 0-27 layout of our dreams. There were of course the things that happen at home that only we knew, and those things got bad enough to cause the pending divorce. I was not the perfect husband, nor have I ever professed to be. The divorce started out as us splitting as friends right up until the court date. Everything was fine until her mother got involved and started a full on smear campaign against me and convinced Tina how evil I was. I will not go into all the examples, feel free to PM me and we can talk brother to brother. Needless to say, I am glad I got everything in writing as her lawyer tried to say all the custom paint and detailed locomotives were hers, the Jeep was hers and things that were part of the Wiggin family were hers. Unfortunately Tina worked at the same place as I so the rumor mill was prime ground for her hurtful and damaging rumors. Everything from me stealing from the Testor Corporation to dragging a good friend into her muck of lies by saying I had cheated on her and had a homosexual relationship with him while married to her. The stalking of my girlfriends from her and her family and the restraining order put on her plus more of her lies finally led to my departure from Hobbico. To this day, I will not talk to her, her rumor mill continues. Fortunately, even though my girlfriend works at the same place as Tina, Tina is afraid of her. The divorce was a tough, painful process, and to this day, I still don't see what is fair about loosing a great job, loosing good friends, the money problems, while the ex lives the good life, kept her job, remarried and is comfortable. This isn't a pity party, this is just a warning to you Jerry. No one and I mean NO ONE thought Tina was capable of doing or being the type of vindictive person she was and continues to be. Anyone who met her would think she was the kindest person. Her mom was not and disliked me from day one and twisted Tina's mind. The cute little Christian girl who was raised Baptist suddenly showed her true colors and it cost me in more ways then I care to say. It is fine now, and I pray it will continue that way, but do not let your guard down for one second. As Reagan said, "Trust but verify." Don't say anything bad about her, because some friends will side with her, some with you. Take the high road and hopefully all will stay civil. Finally, stay true to yourself. Focus on you, your kids and the things that matter to you. Be helpful to her, but don't bend over backward to help her, she had a part in this decision too, so she can take care of herself. Trust in GOD, not the church, not some dogmatic mainline "religion". Surround yourself in faith based friends and comfort yourself every morning knowing God is still in control and will never give us more than we can handle. I learned through this process I was not a "Baptist" I was a child of God, his creation and learning through the trials set before me made me who I am today. Be strong my friend, I have faith that you will do better than did I. My door via PM, e-mail and phone is always open should you need advice or someone to just listen to what your going through. Carry on my wayward son, they'll peace when you are done. With respect.
